Relationship advice dating a single mother
“Wow, you look good considering you had two kids.” 4.
“Not a lot of guys are interested in women with kids, you know.” Interested in getting to know someone on a second date?
The female race is an elusive and intimidating breed. In fact, I would venture to say that there are times when even they don't know what they’re thinking, so you have GOT to be on your toes. Once you think you've got them figured out, you get clocked in the head with their purse, and you have to look for another gal to date.
Now that you've got some fond (or not-so-fond) memories of dating bouncing around in your head, I'm going to throw another element into the mix that will make the dating game a little more advanced.
To others, the word summons horrific memories of blind dates that made you want to run for the hills.
For me, the word triggers memories of blown money, awkward silences, over-analyzed text messages, and just straight-up awkwardness.
If you don’t ask her out — no matter how innocuous or considerate the reason — she will assume you don’t want to see her. Leave the ask to the last minute, she has to scramble to find a sitter and that’s really uncool. This shows interest in one of the most important things in her life. Sounds cliche’, but I always appreciate it when a guy goes on about how much he adores his niece, or spends time with a friend’s baby. This isn’t necessary, and especially after you have been involved for a while you will likely sort out the who-pays-when conundrum. But she wants to feel like you’re interested in her in every part of her womanhood — including motherhood. If it has been more than a few months, or things get very serious very quickly, and she hasn’t brought up introducing the kids, bring it up. Rule #1: Don't Treat Dating Like It's a Sprint—It's More Like a Half Marathon Guys, you have got to take it slow.Despite everything being instant these days (texting, canned sandwiches, high-speed internet, get-rich-quick schemes), you have to give the relationship time to blossom, and it's not going to happen overnight. You're a great guy, so don't blow it by proposing to the gal on the second date.A single mom is responsible for providing for her children's emotional, financial, and social support in addition to her own. Be someone who is willing to put aside everything that you are doing so that you can be excited or sad or angry or hopeful with the woman that is needing that support. Her Kids are Priority Number One If she says she's too busy with her kids to go out with you over the weekend, she probably really is busy with her kids.Kids are a huge responsibility when two people are sharing the responsibilities, but now that she's taking care of the kids by herself, she's definitely going to have her hands full.